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SHOULD’VE, COULD’VE & WOULD’VE ARE ALL HOLDING YOU BACK

12 Aug

Do you relive conversations wondering or second-guessing what you could’ve or should’ve said? Do you spend time worrying about what a certain word or phrase ‘really’ meant in an email or discussion you had the day before? I know I have! In fact I have to work very, very hard not to waste my time over analyzing every single conversation, presentation, argument or whatever I have, because the truth is it just doesn’t do anything to help me move forward.

In fact these words would’ve, could’ve and should’ve tend to hang like baggage around your neck, dragging along the floor behind you. The more you worry the heavier the dragging mess of concern becomes and the burden is just too much for anyone. The slower walk, gradually brings you to a halt in life.

You could of course add if, maybe and many more words to the things that are holding you back in life. So why don’t we cut free? Well if you are like me, you tend to be strolling merrily through life one day only to suddenly realize the walk is not as easy as it was the day or week before. And here is where you can change the way you live your life.

You could start, as I am trying to, analyzing what it is that is troubling you. But rather than start to relive the same experiences over and over again, just try to quickly to understand what was said and what you learned from that moment. Memories are wonderful things, but life is too short to be reliving old moments, especially when there are millions of new ones waiting for you around the corner. So try to remember not to take excess luggage as you travel through life; It just costs you more than you really should to be paying.

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6 responses to “SHOULD’VE, COULD’VE & WOULD’VE ARE ALL HOLDING YOU BACK

  1. osakasaul (@osakasaul)

    August 12, 2011 at 8:55 am

    Good to know; I thought it was the economy – and being 44 in Osaka, Japan that might have been holding me back.

     
  2. laurahartson

    August 12, 2011 at 10:42 am

    this post really imspired me!

     
  3. jennygoth

    August 12, 2011 at 6:47 pm

    your so right alan its really hard not to go over past events or wish you had done it different but you cant change the past so moving forward and dealing with the present is more rewarding have a good weekend xxjen

     
    • afirmin

      September 4, 2011 at 10:39 am

      Thanks Jen, great to see you!! Hope all is good with you? Take care Alan

       
  4. Paul Morin

    August 12, 2011 at 9:04 pm

    This is great advice, Alan. The whole “analysis paralysis” phenomenon is alive and well! It’s easy to over-think everything, when instead what we should do is as you said (paraphrasing): quickly learn what you can from that moment/interaction and move on. It’s a double-edged word to be someone who over-thinks everything — at least it means you ARE thinking, where many don’t. But on the other hand, it also likely means that you’re ALWAYS thinking and in the process, driving yourself a bit crazy…

     
    • afirmin

      September 9, 2011 at 10:41 am

      Thanks for your comment Paul. Really appreciate your words. Have a great week and all the best, take care.

       

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