We’ve all been there. Standing on the edge of a decision that frightens us. Poised to leap into the unknown with fear and responsibility holding you back like an anchor on a ship rooted to the seabed. It’s easy to stay where you are, or even go backwards. But to stay where you are safe. It’s comfortable, warm and the lights are bright around you ensuring you can see everything in your near vicinity. But is that all you want in life?
Thomas Edison had over 1000 patents for inventions he created, including the lightbulb, phonograph and the motion picture camera. Some were not as successful but he is revered throughout history as a great man. Let us not forget that Edison was also quoted in saying, “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
Wake up and realize that you are in control of your life, you are the one that will make your dreams come to life, you are the one that will fill your mind with positivity and love for the incredible person you are. Wake up and live the life you have been gifted because at the end of the day it is only you that goes back to sleep knowing, “I did everything I could to live my dreams.”
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Many times in our lives we look around and see others seemingly floating through life without a care in the world. Things just seem to happen easily for them and dreams just seem to be falling in their laps. In comparison we often have the impression we are standing still, or worse going backwards. Our dreams seem to be distant shadows far off on the horizon in a foggy day, a feeling that can break even the strongest of spirits.
But what do not often realize is the people who we are watching are having the same struggles, but with one difference. The difference is simply not accepting that things are not possible, accepting that with a little hard work and luck one dream could come true. I firmly believe positive thoughts bring a positive return from the universe and if you truly believe a dream you have is possible, it will bring you within reach. I say within reach because just thinking something will never achieve anything, that’s the easy part! We have to set the wheels in motion ourselves by planning and actively moving towards your dreams. You may decide the original dream was not what you thought it promised, but the place you will find yourself is a place where things are a little clearer, the fog has lifted and you can see dreams everywhere.
I, like most people, have faced disappointment with business failures or rejection from a company you really want to work for, but that is just part of life. How would you appreciate climbing a mountain if anyone could just stroll up and plant a flag at the top without any effort. Whatever you dream of doing, make it happen or at least start today by putting the wheels in motion to get you closer, and remember it is not always about the final destination but rather what you learn on the journey. Happy trails and good luck.
Do you relive conversations wondering or second-guessing what you could’ve or should’ve said? Do you spend time worrying about what a certain word or phrase ‘really’ meant in an email or discussion you had the day before? I know I have! In fact I have to work very, very hard not to waste my time over analyzing every single conversation, presentation, argument or whatever I have, because the truth is it just doesn’t do anything to help me move forward.
In fact these words Would’ve, could’ve and Should’ve tend to hang like baggage around your neck, dragging along the floor behind you. The more you worry the heavier the dragging mess of concern becomes and the burden is just too much for anyone. The slower walk gradually brings you to a halt in life.
You could of course add if, maybe and many more words to the things that are holding you back in life. So why don’t we cut free? Well if you are like me, you tend to be strolling merrily through life one day only to suddenly realize the walk is not as easy as it was the day or week before. And here is where you can change the way you live your life.
You could start, as I am trying to, analyzing what it is that is troubling you but rather than start to relive the same experiences over and over again, just try quickly to understand what was said and what you learned from that moment. Memories are wonderful things, but life is too short to be reliving old moments, especially when there are millions of new ones waiting for you around the corner. So try to remember not to take excess luggage as you go through life; It just costs you more than you really should to be paying.
I recently spoke to a friend who was asking me what it was like traveling the world and did I regret leaving the UK when I did. I asked him why he was asking the question, as we talk all the time and I sensed there was something behind the need to ask me. He told me that he was thinking of traveling for work and just wanted to know my thoughts about the subject.
The truth is I left England when I was 23, worked in Paris and Amsterdam before moving to the Middle East. I have worked all over the Middle East and had some incredible experiences along the way. I told my friend that I always knew that at any time I wanted, I could go back. In fact the first year away I kept my return ticket pinned to a notice board in my office. I had good and bad experiences of course, but every single one changed me as a person, a change that has helped me be the person I am today, and I can still always go back. But the truth is I just want to keep exploring.
I told my friend this and there was a pause. I asked him, “What do you expect to change in the coming year that will help you decide to try something new?” He told me quickly, “Nothing!” So I just said to him, “Then there is no time like the present then to change your life if the worst that can happen you are in the same position next year you are now back at home?” I continued, “But you will have experienced something that will change you for the better, forever!” I hope he tries something different, even if it is not traveling around the world. After all change always cleanses the soul and gives you a fresh look on where you are and where you are going, I know, I have experienced it first hand, many times!
I doubt there are many people in this world who do not have a million questions rolling around their mind on any given day. Why doesn’t she love me? Why is he mean? When will I get a pay rise? Why do the children not listen? And even the big ones like; Why are we here?
Many of these questions could be answered very simply, yet I am sure that in most cases, even the other party cold not answer them. But the big questions in life keep us searching and guessing year after year. Religion and science play a ping pong game with the question leaving every one a little bemused by the entire question. But maybe we are not supposed to know the answer?
We are a curious species that always searches for more answers to everything in our lives. The hardest one of all would probably understanding ourselves, yet alone the other people we spend our time with. I have lost count the amount of times I have sat after an incident, once the initial anger subsided, lost in why I reacted the way I did. I have often not liked what the answer was as it showed my insecurities and worries, a defense mechanism because I didn’t like what was in front of me or what that said about me.
So the real question is could we really handle the truth anyway? Whatever the truth and real story is about why why we are here and what we are supposed to be doing, we will obviously find out one way or another so whats the rush. Remember Einstein always used to say, “If I had one hour to solve a problem, I would spend 55 minutes finding out what the question is.” Maybe we are all just asking the the wrong questions?
Life is full of obstacles and difficulties. This is a fact of life that we all accept as part of growing up. But there is nothing in life we will face that can have as a destructive, demoralizing and negative influence on our lives than ourselves. We are the toughest critic, the sternest of judges and the one person who can decide in life whether we accept or ignore the negative forces around us.
The easiest trick in the book is to blame someone else for the tough times we face or when things go wrong. But at the end of the day, we are the biggest obstacle we need to overcome, and if we could just understand that if we overcome this hurdle, face the demons inside of us all we would realize that the only thing stopping us reaching our dreams; is us.
I have looked long and hard onto the mirror on many occasions and asked myself who is really to blame for the failings in my life or for the things that went wrong. It is not easy to admit, that it was mostly, me. But to move forward, to learn from all the mistakes you have to accept responsibility for what went wrong. It will be the hardest thing you ever do, but when you do, you will see a clearer path ahead of you where the possibilities are endless and any obstacles seems passable.
Every single day we are faced with choices in our lives. Decisions that fork in the road. One is safe, although nothing is certain in life, you can pretty much guarantee where you are going to end up whilst the other is clouded in mystery and possibility. The second route scares us, makes us doubt every aspect of the person we are and often ensures we take the safer route. But why?
Fear is the main reason. Losing what you have, things not working out and the thought that all you tried just failed to materialize the way you expected it. I have been down the mystery path many times, most of which have rarely been what I expected or planned for. None, so far, have been the path to my dreams. Or so I thought. Because I have always thought that the path I walk must be the way I see it for things to work out the way I wanted. When in fact the troubled paths I have walked throughout my years have each carved a new aspect to the person I am, and looking back I can see the path very clearly.
So plan all you want but never fear things not working out the way you imagined. Life will have a way of giving you the lessons you need rather than the ones you think you should experience. But most importantly, never fear the risky path, it may very well not be what you are expecting, it may well give you the feeling that you made a mistake. But I am a firm believer that every experience you have along the way will get you a better person, one way or another. What you will achieve from taking a risk every now and then is not about success in the materialistic view, but rather what you feel inside of yourself, and that alone, is worth a risk.