Is the fear of being wrong holding you back?

We live in a world where perfection is championed and anything less is frowned upon. Whether this is a business idea, our bodies, or just the way we post on social media, we are constantly being judged. Most often than not though the harshest judge of all is ourselves, so why do we do this to ourselves?

We have allowed ourselves to be victims in a world that is paralyzed with getting things wrong, making a mistake or waiting to do anything because we are unable to make it prefect. When did this happen in our world? We reached this point in our history from pushing the boundaries, exploring unchartered seas and experimenting over and over again until we got it right.

Throw off that fear of getting it wrong or not being perfect and a whole new world opens up to you. Understand that the greatest people or those who we see as successful now where not always that way. Steve Jobs, Richard Branson and any other icon of our world have always said they didn’t always get it right.

But that is why they did eventually become successful, because they broke away from the pack that were all worrying about making a mistake, being perfect or just petrified that someone would say you got it wrong. Most of the world is living in that state of fear, worried what others, so called friends, might say, think or do if we tried and failed. And let’s be honest most of the world are still unhappy. So you have to ask yourself one question, ‘Do you want a life like most of the world who are unhappy or do you want a life where you are not paralysed by fear?’

What looks like the end could in fact be a brighter beginning

Have you ever had a moment in life when everything seemed to come crashing down? I know I have, on more than one occasion in fact. It is important to remember a single thought; maybe not achieving it was what was supposed to happen.

As tough and often devastating seeing a dream, a goal or a great deal of work simple fade away we often close our eyes and feel sorry for ourselves. We punish ourselves, blame those around us or complain that life is not fair. In reality you only have to look around this world to see what real injustice or an unfair world really looks like.

If you have your health, your friends and family close you, as I am grateful to say I do, then you have everything in this world you need to be happy. If you are happy about this you will be surprised that the universe has a way of bringing other opportunities into your path. The key is having your eyes open to see them.

Just because a life moment has not materialized in the manner you believed it should have doesn’t necessarily mean that that this is the end. Instead of a dead end try to see this moment as a curve in the road, taking you in a slightly different direction. This way you do not grind to a halt in life, but rather gain momentum as experience adds fuel to your passion.

Every experience provides valuable lessons that allow you to move forward if you allow yourself to do so. Each dark moment is followed by opportunity to reshape your world, to pick yourself up and create a life that you want. The tools needed to do so are often found within those dark times in our lives allowing you to grow and move forward. We all have them, but it is those that look forward are the ones who become stronger.

Like mist clearing on a frosty morning we must always keep our eyes open in those darkest moments, even if it is to look through tears, because what often lies ahead are greater opportunities to be happy.

No Matter What You Are Going Through…You Are Not Alone.

We can often find ourselves isolated and alone through a many number of circumstances. Regardless what these circumstances are, because, there are as many as there are different people in this world, we can find ourselves in a dark place wondering where the light may come, if it will come at all.

We see on the news how human beings treat each other in our world today and it sickens us to our very core yet there are hidden tragedies of people facing turmoil alone, often without help or guidance on how to resolve their demons. The list is endless but from eating disorders, self harm, bullying, depression, substance abuse and unfortunately the list goes on and on. We call ourselves civilized but often society turns its back on people, blames them for their problems or simply walks past them consumed with their own daily troubles of paying bills and meeting deadlines.

I have been spending a lot of time over the last year exploring various issues and almost started a non-profit in the Middle East for helping parents and children understand or find information about what to do when a child is bullied, as I felt not enough was being done.

I know, it is not going to change the world, but I only needed to change one child’s world for all the effort to be worthwhile. Unfortunately I returned back to the UK before being able to see it through although it is still something I plan to do. However, what I found in the UK seemed to only highlight the amount of troubles facing people in our world.

One thing I have found in all my research is that there are many incredibly brave people, some children, creating blogs that are trying to share their experiences in the hope that they come to terms with what they are going through, but most importantly that someone out there may see a post, a blog or a word that truly does connect and they do not feel so isolated, so alone and even so abandoned. From deep heartfelt messages, quotes and even incredible illustrations show a glimpse of the pain in people’s lives, these people are what you might call ‘real comic book heroes in a digital world.’

So, whatever you are facing, don’t give up, don’t sleep thinking no one cares because there are many people in this world who care about you. More importantly don’t blame yourself for anything that has happened as we all carry baggage with us through life and it defines who you are, the good, the bad and the ugly. Those that love you will accept that, it doesn’t matter about the ones that don’t. Just search for whatever you are going through online, I guarantee you will find help and importantly not be alone through the journey you are on.


Full Potential Can Only Be Reached With Full Commitment

The truth is we are all guilty of not living up to our full potential. There is no excuse, no blame to be placed or tear to be shed. We may blame society for crashing our dreams, holding us back, pulling the economical rug from beneath us but the cold hard fact is that the only person that can change our situation is the individual themselves, You and me.

Life has a way of distracting us from our goals, putting little obstacles in our path and sometimes just being down right mean with circumstance or chance. But hey, that is life and we have a simple choice, either accept the fact that things will not always go your way or face the dark road of self-doubt and self-pity.

These roads are the ones most trodden unfortunately and everything in today’s media, society and culture is pushing you to go the same way as the herd. But unless you are like me and just so stubborn that you don’t know when you are beaten, or just know that a better life is waiting for you if you try that little bit harder, then the road you will walk will be one of self discovery and enlightenment. That doesn’t mean that it will be straight and smooth, but it does mean there is a better you waiting at the end. Journey on!

In The Darkest Moments You Need To Be Your Own Shining Light

We have all been there, some more than most, but every single individual has faced those dark, lonely moments in life where the walls were closing in, the air seemed a little thinner and the exit to that particular situation was no where to be seen. But life has a way of flowing in cycles and we come to realize, slowly as we grow older, that the highs are not really that high and the lows can be overcome.

In the darkest of moments that life throws up it is the time we need to focus on the positives in our world, even if you cannot see any at that point in time. It is the positive thoughts that will drag you throw the darkness and open a door to a new chapter in your life. I know what you are thinking; ‘it’s not that easy to be positive when hope and help seems to have left you behind in your troubles.’

But take a look back at your past and the difficult times you faced, do you remember the hurt, the pain and desperation you felt in those moments? We all do and we all can see that path led us to something better in our life. So take a deep breath today and think about the situation you are in and the life you have led so that you can begin to create that light at the end of the tunnel. Unfortunately not everyone has the luxury of help coming from outside but even if you do the positive motion of better times begins with you, your thoughts and your choice to live a better, happier life because it could be just around the corner. And knowing that makes you one positive step away from where you now. Keep moving forward.

Would A Younger You Be Happy Where You Are In Life?

Life comes down to the decisions we make. The good, bad or even the decisions we failed to make. A chance meeting with someone new, an opportunity that comes your way or even those major events in our lives that bring every thing in to focus…it all comes down to how we react. 

Most of the time we have the good fortune of being able to take our time with our decisions but there are times we seem to be just along for the ride and the decisions seem to being made on our behalf. Some people enjoy that lack of control while it terrifies others. But in those instances when we look back on our life a path appears that seems to have been destined from the very beginning. Every decision we took to avoid that fate always seemed to teach us a lesson, close or open another door or simply point us in the right direction.

I had a wonderful conversation with a person yesterday that pointed out something that I had not even realized about myself. Most the dreams and ambitions I had as a child had appeared in my life in one-way or another. It wasn’t exactly how six year old me had imagined it but it did make me wonder about how much destiny is already engrained in our DNA from birth and the journey we take along the way. I am not going into religion or beliefs because I believe that is a personal thing and not something I wish to write about, but it does make you wonder about why we are here? And how much control we really do have?

As a child I wanted to be a professional footballer, travel the world and be a vet, yes all at the same time. My love of football and animals was something that often made me a joke with my brother and his friends, but that kind of thing didn’t concern me, even at that age. I also remember at school knowing that I wanted to combine art, which I had some talent in, with computers that were just being launched by my hero Steve Jobs. Another thing was that I also wanted to help children in anyway I could, especially against bullying.

Since then I have travelled the world to some incredible countries, I work in advertising where I combine Art and Computers as a Digital Director and Creative Director, I was a semi professional footballer before I left the UK and I launched a social media community for collectors based on an animal…a squirrel! And finally just before I left Dubai for the UK I was in discussion with a few people about creating a non profit organisation called ‘Stix & Stones’ that was going to all about providing information, advice and help to parents and children who face bullying. Not exactly what I planned but it is strange that all those early dreams and the decisions I have made through life brought me to this point today.

I still dream a lot about doing more but that comes from the ambitious nature I have so I feel I haven’t even started yet. I had not really thought about this a great deal until my conversation with a very insightful person yesterday who certainly make me think about my journey and put a smile on my face for the rest of the day. So thank you for the conversation, it was enlightening to say the least.

You Can Be One Step Closer To Achieving Any Of Your Dreams

For every single person dreams flit in and out of our subconscious and the entire story of how our lives could be is crystal clear, so clear that you can almost feel it. Sometimes those instances are gone as quickly as they appear and other days they seem to float around your mind and follow you throughout your travels in the real world. We often let the doubts and fears chase these dreams away as mere fantasy, or it would never work for me. Well why the hell not?

Do you honestly think there is any difference between the individual you are now and a successful person who made their dreams come true? Maybe luck was on their side, maybe their idea was better and maybe a million other things as well but the truth of the matter is that they decided to try, they decided to listen to those little dreams of hope and acted on them. I’m not saying you need to sell everything you have and dive into to every venture but there is nothing stopping you starting the ball rolling towards a dream you have. As long as you are moving forward, even just one step, you are closer to your dreams than you were the day before and that is the difference between people that do and people that don’t.

There is nothing in this world stopping you attempting to make your dreams come true except yourself. If you have friends or people around you that doubt you or tell you that you cannot do something you need to listen to what they are saying and understand the words not the intention. Take into account that every opinion is valuable information to arm you with a better idea or more fuel to reach your dreams. If the information you are getting from these people is negative for negatives sake then you need to drop this people like a stone and surround yourself with positive and more successful people. People who are not taking chances on their own dreams should never hold back those who do see a brighter future for them selves.

Online you can find many people willing to help and support your dreams. Our world is no longer the only people we see in real life. The borders in your life, the possibilities that now stand in front of you are endless but you need to make the first step towards that dream. Pick a dream, one that you would get the most enjoyment out of it and start asking for help to make it happen, you will be surprised how many people are willing and desire to help you make that dream come true. I am one of them for a start.

Every Bump In The Road Adds Character To Your Personality

You know those lines in your face? Yes, the ones that the world spends billions of dollars a year to try and conceal or remove. Well, people say that they add character to your face and show the life you have lived. What is sure is that each and every single one of them, no matter how many you have tell a story of where you have been and who you are. Most people hide the real stories but there is no story we meet where we should hide or be ashamed of in any way.

The truth is that every single experience we face shapes us into the people we are today. If we are truly honest it is often the worst experiences that we learn the greatest lessons and are the ones that make us stronger as we move forward. No one really knows why or how these incidents come into our path. It could be a higher being or it could just be down to our luck, but whatever you believe what is clear is the leap in character that comes from every experience.

What I have come to see is that not everything in life is about the major events in life. But rather the smaller incidents where you meet an interesting person, taste a delicious dish or have one of those moments where you just take a moment to stop and see how far you have come in life. So the next time you look in the mirror and wonder where that new line has come from, try not to concern yourself with the thought of getting old, but instead look at it as another reminder of a great quote, Everyone dies but not everyone lives.

Childhood Is The Great Migration That You Must Be An Individual To Survive

Every person is born an individual, unlike anyone else on earth. We have traits of our parents DNA that we mix with our own personality to create someone totally unique in this universe. As a child we are told to touch this, feel that, experience everything you can to grow and learn about the world that surrounds you. Then society jumps in when we go to school and tramples down any individuality stating we must conform, we must act this way, a drawing has to look like this and god forbid that you are not like the other kids a whole new world of pain and hatred comes tumbling towards you.

Unfortunately society seems to accentuate this moral standing by going along with what is perceived ‘normal.’ The media corporations make millions based on lifting up people in the papers only so they can tear them down in equal ferocity. When children see this kind of behavior and our acceptance of it then obviously they are going to single out individuals who have a different hobby, interest or are just not as willing to follow the social herd along the path of boring uniformity.

Why is that when we finally escape the clutches of the school system that we suddenly begin to realize the all the things we suppressed in the name of being perceived as ‘normal’ are the things that make us happy? Why are we not doing more to help children during this period of their lives? What sort of educational system are we building that does little to help encourage greatness of individuals that we look at as brilliant pioneers of history? Can you imagine a person like Andy Warhol in one of our schools today? I doubt the kid would survive 4th grade!

As a human being your mission on this planet, no matter whether you are religious, spiritual or any other belief system, is to find your own way on this planet. Do the things you want to do and never listen to the sheep that bleat about what is normal, because there is no such thing. Even those sheep, deep down inside, wish they could be free from the shackles of the mob rule we currently force our youth to endure. Never let that individual spirit go, never let the things that make you happy leave your grasp and never, never do things purely because others do not understand or think are not the social norm.

Love the music you love, love the interest you love and pursue them with all your passion and virtue, because one day you will be free from the pack and will be applauded for being unique. The only difference is that you have not become unique, on the contrary you have managed to survive what is the human version of the Savannah’s great migration, leave the herd to be caught by the crocodiles and lions that are manifestations of insecurity and today’s mob culture, whilst you enjoy the green lands of being able to stand out from the crowd. Free from the herd, free to be happy, free to be you.

Celebrate The Things That Make You An Individual

In our society we seem to be conditioned to what we are supposed to look like, act like and even feel like. In all levels of society being different is frowned upon, questioned and bullied. In our schools we have children who are so scared to go to school because they are being bullied and picked on simply because they different. If a person is not a fan of conventional sports, like Baseball, football or basketball, but likes to do their own thing they are considered strange or weird. This kind of narrow-minded thinking is destroying everything that is good about the human race.

It is the differences that make us special. It is the differences that we should be celebrating and applauding. In a world, and probably even universe, where difference is just part of nature we have to get away from the mindless oppressive attitude that questions someone’s choices to do something different. This should begin at schools where children should be encouraged to be individuals and explore their interests rather than being channeled into a sterile single thought process that, in the end, is only going to create a stream of mindless zombies.

What kind of chance do we have in a universe that must be full of variety, differences and unknown qualities are we to say that you must look like this, you must act like that and you must fit into this box or be bullied or ostracized where they become a recluse or worse harm yourself. What kind of a society are we when we allow our children to be left to the whims of bullies and have no option but to take their lives. If this doesn’t sound alarm bells in the highest reaches of government then something is wrong.

No matter what people tell you about what society expects you to be like, no matter what kind of image magazines portray as desirable and no matter what group or individual bully says to you about who you should be, ignore it and explore your individuality, learn to love those differences that make you special and be proud that you are not like the herd of sheep mindlessly following walking towards to edge of the cliff.

We were born to be different, the world and universe is full of differences and if we cannot accept that on this tiny little rock in space what hope do we ever have of accepting anything that we may find in our universe. Stop for a moment and look at all the people you admire, Singers, actors, musicians, artists and authors. Not one of them decided to fit in with the crowd and now they are celebrated, so why on earth should you?