No Matter What You Are Going Through…You Are Not Alone.

We can often find ourselves isolated and alone through a many number of circumstances. Regardless what these circumstances are, because, there are as many as there are different people in this world, we can find ourselves in a dark place wondering where the light may come, if it will come at all.

We see on the news how human beings treat each other in our world today and it sickens us to our very core yet there are hidden tragedies of people facing turmoil alone, often without help or guidance on how to resolve their demons. The list is endless but from eating disorders, self harm, bullying, depression, substance abuse and unfortunately the list goes on and on. We call ourselves civilized but often society turns its back on people, blames them for their problems or simply walks past them consumed with their own daily troubles of paying bills and meeting deadlines.

I have been spending a lot of time over the last year exploring various issues and almost started a non-profit in the Middle East for helping parents and children understand or find information about what to do when a child is bullied, as I felt not enough was being done.

I know, it is not going to change the world, but I only needed to change one child’s world for all the effort to be worthwhile. Unfortunately I returned back to the UK before being able to see it through although it is still something I plan to do. However, what I found in the UK seemed to only highlight the amount of troubles facing people in our world.

One thing I have found in all my research is that there are many incredibly brave people, some children, creating blogs that are trying to share their experiences in the hope that they come to terms with what they are going through, but most importantly that someone out there may see a post, a blog or a word that truly does connect and they do not feel so isolated, so alone and even so abandoned. From deep heartfelt messages, quotes and even incredible illustrations show a glimpse of the pain in people’s lives, these people are what you might call ‘real comic book heroes in a digital world.’

So, whatever you are facing, don’t give up, don’t sleep thinking no one cares because there are many people in this world who care about you. More importantly don’t blame yourself for anything that has happened as we all carry baggage with us through life and it defines who you are, the good, the bad and the ugly. Those that love you will accept that, it doesn’t matter about the ones that don’t. Just search for whatever you are going through online, I guarantee you will find help and importantly not be alone through the journey you are on.

 

Would A Younger You Be Happy Where You Are In Life?

Life comes down to the decisions we make. The good, bad or even the decisions we failed to make. A chance meeting with someone new, an opportunity that comes your way or even those major events in our lives that bring every thing in to focus…it all comes down to how we react. 

Most of the time we have the good fortune of being able to take our time with our decisions but there are times we seem to be just along for the ride and the decisions seem to being made on our behalf. Some people enjoy that lack of control while it terrifies others. But in those instances when we look back on our life a path appears that seems to have been destined from the very beginning. Every decision we took to avoid that fate always seemed to teach us a lesson, close or open another door or simply point us in the right direction.

I had a wonderful conversation with a person yesterday that pointed out something that I had not even realized about myself. Most the dreams and ambitions I had as a child had appeared in my life in one-way or another. It wasn’t exactly how six year old me had imagined it but it did make me wonder about how much destiny is already engrained in our DNA from birth and the journey we take along the way. I am not going into religion or beliefs because I believe that is a personal thing and not something I wish to write about, but it does make you wonder about why we are here? And how much control we really do have?

As a child I wanted to be a professional footballer, travel the world and be a vet, yes all at the same time. My love of football and animals was something that often made me a joke with my brother and his friends, but that kind of thing didn’t concern me, even at that age. I also remember at school knowing that I wanted to combine art, which I had some talent in, with computers that were just being launched by my hero Steve Jobs. Another thing was that I also wanted to help children in anyway I could, especially against bullying.

Since then I have travelled the world to some incredible countries, I work in advertising where I combine Art and Computers as a Digital Director and Creative Director, I was a semi professional footballer before I left the UK and I launched a social media community for collectors based on an animal…a squirrel! And finally just before I left Dubai for the UK I was in discussion with a few people about creating a non profit organisation called ‘Stix & Stones’ that was going to all about providing information, advice and help to parents and children who face bullying. Not exactly what I planned but it is strange that all those early dreams and the decisions I have made through life brought me to this point today.

I still dream a lot about doing more but that comes from the ambitious nature I have so I feel I haven’t even started yet. I had not really thought about this a great deal until my conversation with a very insightful person yesterday who certainly make me think about my journey and put a smile on my face for the rest of the day. So thank you for the conversation, it was enlightening to say the least.