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No Matter What You Are Going Through…You Are Not Alone.

We can often find ourselves isolated and alone through a many number of circumstances. Regardless what these circumstances are, because, there are as many as there are different people in this world, we can find ourselves in a dark place wondering where the light may come, if it will come at all.

We see on the news how human beings treat each other in our world today and it sickens us to our very core yet there are hidden tragedies of people facing turmoil alone, often without help or guidance on how to resolve their demons. The list is endless but from eating disorders, self harm, bullying, depression, substance abuse and unfortunately the list goes on and on. We call ourselves civilized but often society turns its back on people, blames them for their problems or simply walks past them consumed with their own daily troubles of paying bills and meeting deadlines.

I have been spending a lot of time over the last year exploring various issues and almost started a non-profit in the Middle East for helping parents and children understand or find information about what to do when a child is bullied, as I felt not enough was being done.

I know, it is not going to change the world, but I only needed to change one child’s world for all the effort to be worthwhile. Unfortunately I returned back to the UK before being able to see it through although it is still something I plan to do. However, what I found in the UK seemed to only highlight the amount of troubles facing people in our world.

One thing I have found in all my research is that there are many incredibly brave people, some children, creating blogs that are trying to share their experiences in the hope that they come to terms with what they are going through, but most importantly that someone out there may see a post, a blog or a word that truly does connect and they do not feel so isolated, so alone and even so abandoned. From deep heartfelt messages, quotes and even incredible illustrations show a glimpse of the pain in people’s lives, these people are what you might call ‘real comic book heroes in a digital world.’

So, whatever you are facing, don’t give up, don’t sleep thinking no one cares because there are many people in this world who care about you. More importantly don’t blame yourself for anything that has happened as we all carry baggage with us through life and it defines who you are, the good, the bad and the ugly. Those that love you will accept that, it doesn’t matter about the ones that don’t. Just search for whatever you are going through online, I guarantee you will find help and importantly not be alone through the journey you are on.

 

 
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Posted by on January 13, 2014 in Miscellaneous

 

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Be The Architect Of Your Own Happiness

As 2013 closed, I faced a truth that I had probably been avoiding for many months. For anyone who has followed my blog they will know that adding a positive touch to your day is where I find inspiration, to inspire others makes me feel whole and fills me with an immense happiness, although I have been absent for many months unable to post anything. At the beginning of 2013 I have to say that darkness reigned over my every turn. Not one to feel sorry for myself I tried to focus on making sure I was there for my children, who needed me in a time that even I couldn’t understand how the walls were crumbling around us.

Having to move back to the UK due to family circumstances I seemed to stumble into a rabbit hole of Alice in Wonderland proportions and grappled with the reality of a situation where I felt I had no control. I became a spectator as my life unraveled before my very eyes. I focused on the positives as much as I could with moments I will cherish such as seeing my parents in the summer, my brother and his family. Spending time with my beautiful nieces after so many years was a true highlight, one I will always cherish. But at a time when I was fooling myself that I was on the right track, I had my eyes opened from the most unlikely of sources.

As people we often believe age is a sign of experience, understanding and awareness of how the world works. As a person I have always taken a great interest in helping others. Whether this is people I’ve trained at work all over the world or people I have come across throughout my life. I despise to see anyone in pain and would gladly take the place when the knives cut deep into their soul. But at a time when I was possibly running out of road to run down, where the fuel was almost spent life brought onto my path a little architect of happiness, a pure soul and someone who had faced a dark road alone but was still smiling. A person I thought I was supposed to help, taught me a life lesson about the importance of self-preservation and the need to take some time to focus on myself.

My eyes are now open, the clouds clearing as I realize that I was hiding from the truth and need to focus on myself in order to help my children, my friends and those in my life I love.  It is hard to put into words how a simple act of kindness from any source can truly transform an individual. So if you are having a tough time, facing darkness and strife, try to remember the words from my little architect of happiness, ‘Unless you take some time to make yourself happy, how will you ever expect to bring happiness to others?’

I wish you all a very happy, healthy and successful 2014. I know I will make sure those around me will be but first I will start on myself.

 
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Posted by on January 7, 2014 in Blog

 

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Full Potential Can Only Be Reached With Full Commitment

The truth is we are all guilty of not living up to our full potential. There is no excuse, no blame to be placed or tear to be shed. We may blame society for crashing our dreams, holding us back, pulling the economical rug from beneath us but the cold hard fact is that the only person that can change our situation is the individual themselves, You and me.

Life has a way of distracting us from our goals, putting little obstacles in our path and sometimes just being down right mean with circumstance or chance. But hey, that is life and we have a simple choice, either accept the fact that things will not always go your way or face the dark road of self-doubt and self-pity.

These roads are the ones most trodden unfortunately and everything in today’s media, society and culture is pushing you to go the same way as the herd. But unless you are like me and just so stubborn that you don’t know when you are beaten, or just know that a better life is waiting for you if you try that little bit harder, then the road you will walk will be one of self discovery and enlightenment. That doesn’t mean that it will be straight and smooth, but it does mean there is a better you waiting at the end. Journey on!

 
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Posted by on July 3, 2013 in motivation

 

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In The Darkest Moments You Need To Be Your Own Shining Light

We have all been there, some more than most, but every single individual has faced those dark, lonely moments in life where the walls were closing in, the air seemed a little thinner and the exit to that particular situation was no where to be seen. But life has a way of flowing in cycles and we come to realize, slowly as we grow older, that the highs are not really that high and the lows can be overcome.

In the darkest of moments that life throws up it is the time we need to focus on the positives in our world, even if you cannot see any at that point in time. It is the positive thoughts that will drag you throw the darkness and open a door to a new chapter in your life. I know what you are thinking; ‘it’s not that easy to be positive when hope and help seems to have left you behind in your troubles.’

But take a look back at your past and the difficult times you faced, do you remember the hurt, the pain and desperation you felt in those moments? We all do and we all can see that path led us to something better in our life. So take a deep breath today and think about the situation you are in and the life you have led so that you can begin to create that light at the end of the tunnel. Unfortunately not everyone has the luxury of help coming from outside but even if you do the positive motion of better times begins with you, your thoughts and your choice to live a better, happier life because it could be just around the corner. And knowing that makes you one positive step away from where you now. Keep moving forward.

 
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Posted by on June 9, 2013 in motivation

 

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Would A Younger You Be Happy Where You Are In Life?

Life comes down to the decisions we make. The good, bad or even the decisions we failed to make. A chance meeting with someone new, an opportunity that comes your way or even those major events in our lives that bring every thing in to focus…it all comes down to how we react. 

Most of the time we have the good fortune of being able to take our time with our decisions but there are times we seem to be just along for the ride and the decisions seem to being made on our behalf. Some people enjoy that lack of control while it terrifies others. But in those instances when we look back on our life a path appears that seems to have been destined from the very beginning. Every decision we took to avoid that fate always seemed to teach us a lesson, close or open another door or simply point us in the right direction.

I had a wonderful conversation with a person yesterday that pointed out something that I had not even realized about myself. Most the dreams and ambitions I had as a child had appeared in my life in one-way or another. It wasn’t exactly how six year old me had imagined it but it did make me wonder about how much destiny is already engrained in our DNA from birth and the journey we take along the way. I am not going into religion or beliefs because I believe that is a personal thing and not something I wish to write about, but it does make you wonder about why we are here? And how much control we really do have?

As a child I wanted to be a professional footballer, travel the world and be a vet, yes all at the same time. My love of football and animals was something that often made me a joke with my brother and his friends, but that kind of thing didn’t concern me, even at that age. I also remember at school knowing that I wanted to combine art, which I had some talent in, with computers that were just being launched by my hero Steve Jobs. Another thing was that I also wanted to help children in anyway I could, especially against bullying.

Since then I have travelled the world to some incredible countries, I work in advertising where I combine Art and Computers as a Digital Director and Creative Director, I was a semi professional footballer before I left the UK and I launched a social media community for collectors based on an animal…a squirrel! And finally just before I left Dubai for the UK I was in discussion with a few people about creating a non profit organisation called ‘Stix & Stones’ that was going to all about providing information, advice and help to parents and children who face bullying. Not exactly what I planned but it is strange that all those early dreams and the decisions I have made through life brought me to this point today.

I still dream a lot about doing more but that comes from the ambitious nature I have so I feel I haven’t even started yet. I had not really thought about this a great deal until my conversation with a very insightful person yesterday who certainly make me think about my journey and put a smile on my face for the rest of the day. So thank you for the conversation, it was enlightening to say the least.

 
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Posted by on May 3, 2013 in motivation

 

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You Can Be One Step Closer To Achieving Any Of Your Dreams

For every single person dreams flit in and out of our subconscious and the entire story of how our lives could be is crystal clear, so clear that you can almost feel it. Sometimes those instances are gone as quickly as they appear and other days they seem to float around your mind and follow you throughout your travels in the real world. We often let the doubts and fears chase these dreams away as mere fantasy, or it would never work for me. Well why the hell not?

Do you honestly think there is any difference between the individual you are now and a successful person who made their dreams come true? Maybe luck was on their side, maybe their idea was better and maybe a million other things as well but the truth of the matter is that they decided to try, they decided to listen to those little dreams of hope and acted on them. I’m not saying you need to sell everything you have and dive into to every venture but there is nothing stopping you starting the ball rolling towards a dream you have. As long as you are moving forward, even just one step, you are closer to your dreams than you were the day before and that is the difference between people that do and people that don’t.

There is nothing in this world stopping you attempting to make your dreams come true except yourself. If you have friends or people around you that doubt you or tell you that you cannot do something you need to listen to what they are saying and understand the words not the intention. Take into account that every opinion is valuable information to arm you with a better idea or more fuel to reach your dreams. If the information you are getting from these people is negative for negatives sake then you need to drop this people like a stone and surround yourself with positive and more successful people. People who are not taking chances on their own dreams should never hold back those who do see a brighter future for them selves.

Online you can find many people willing to help and support your dreams. Our world is no longer the only people we see in real life. The borders in your life, the possibilities that now stand in front of you are endless but you need to make the first step towards that dream. Pick a dream, one that you would get the most enjoyment out of it and start asking for help to make it happen, you will be surprised how many people are willing and desire to help you make that dream come true. I am one of them for a start.

 
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Posted by on March 13, 2013 in motivation

 

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Every Bump In The Road Adds Character To Your Personality

You know those lines in your face? Yes, the ones that the world spends billions of dollars a year to try and conceal or remove. Well, people say that they add character to your face and show the life you have lived. What is sure is that each and every single one of them, no matter how many you have tell a story of where you have been and who you are. Most people hide the real stories but there is no story we meet where we should hide or be ashamed of in any way.

The truth is that every single experience we face shapes us into the people we are today. If we are truly honest it is often the worst experiences that we learn the greatest lessons and are the ones that make us stronger as we move forward. No one really knows why or how these incidents come into our path. It could be a higher being or it could just be down to our luck, but whatever you believe what is clear is the leap in character that comes from every experience.

What I have come to see is that not everything in life is about the major events in life. But rather the smaller incidents where you meet an interesting person, taste a delicious dish or have one of those moments where you just take a moment to stop and see how far you have come in life. So the next time you look in the mirror and wonder where that new line has come from, try not to concern yourself with the thought of getting old, but instead look at it as another reminder of a great quote, Everyone dies but not everyone lives.

 
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Posted by on March 7, 2013 in Miscellaneous

 

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